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Posted by Betty Louise (Member # 7175) on :

We have discussed forgiving those who don't ask. My sister rewrites history in her mind, rather than ask forgiveness. At this point I can forgive her anyway or have no relationship with her. She is all I have left of my family. I admit it is hard. Especially when she tells me she had told everyone at the Church we grew up, how she has taken the highroad and forgiven me,when she is the one who spread lies about me for the last two years. At this point I will love her but deal with her as little as possible. Betty

Posted by Betty Louise (Member # 7175) on :

Not forgiving can cause pain to yourself. Three weeks ago I began to grieve over the time I lost with my mom because of my sisters lies. I grieved so much, I got shingles again. To top it off when I told my sister what was bothering me, she told me that I got the shingles because I am spiritually immature. I was angry for days. But God begin to lay on my heart that I need to turn over my pain to Him. When Satan brings up all the lies and how many times my life has changed because of my sister and her lies, I turn it over to God.
My sister may never change but with Gods help, I can let go of the pain.

Posted by Carol Swenson (Member # 6929) on :

I understand how painful it is when family members act like enemies. My brother was abusive in many ways, including lying to me and about me. He tried to make Mom disinherit me. His motivation was greed.

I can't forgive the sins, but I can forgive the sinner. I am also a forgiven sinner. I avoid him now so he won't steal from me and so on, but I pray for him. I pray that he will come to know the truth and repent. I feel compassion for him because he is so spiritually ill that he thinks it's necessary to do abusive things. At the same time, I pray that I may also be made aware of my own sins.

I know that unless he repents and seeks forgiveness from God, then his sins will continue. I am not the only person he was abusive to. He needs to have a change of heart that only the Holy Spirit can bring about.

Posted by Betty Louise (Member # 7175) on :

I am so sorry Carol. You are right, loved ones cut the deepest.
Betty