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TEXASGRANDMA
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I forgot about that. My mother used to bathe and take the dog a couple of days a week so my Aunt could play with him. It is good to take care of your own physical needs because if you die from neglect of your needs then who will be here to visit your loved one in a home. I have already told my kids that if I get to the point that I lose my mind or become violent, I want them to put me in a nursing home. I do not want them to sacrifice their own lives for me.
betty
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Luk 21:28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.
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Bat Elohim
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I will pray for you also. I cared for my grandad for a short time. He was 89, had alzhiemer's and dementia. In the end he was convinced that i was trying to kill him and that I had been involved in a conspiracy to kill my grand mother (who had died a year previous).
I ended up having to let my uncle put him in a home, where he died not long after. It was horrible to see him that way and to see him put in a home. But I honestly could not care for him any longer and my family didn't want to even try and help.
As far as the pets go, my grandad had a little dog, and the home let us take her to visit a couple of times. But she was old (15 i think) and died while he was in the home.
There are homes that allow pets to live with their masters. Maybe you could find one of those?
Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.
Blessings and Shalom,
Joanna.
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helpforhomeschoolers
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We will pray for you; My mother in law takes care of her 94 yea rold mother who is at this point still living in her own home (well temporarily in my mother in law's home with a broken femor)(she fell out of bed) but not having my mom here anymore I think what a blessing to have your mother with you, and at the same time I know it is a strain in all aspects emotionally, physically and financially. But what a blessing that you are bale to do it. God will provide; HE is faithful and HEe will honor your honoring her in this way.
Our Grammy is also beginning to experience dementia and it is scary. The unknown is perhaps the most difficult thing. BUT even though we dont know what to expect or what is coming next and what we will have to do... GOD knows. And God knows your needs, and God honors your honoring your mother in law in this way and caring for her. Trust HIM. Rest in HIM. He will supply all your needs.
God Bless you and keep you all; give you strength and courage and peace.
Love in Christ,
Linda
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RedeemTheTime
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Thanks very much Texasgrandma for your reply:-) Being on a limited income we can't afford that type of care. No long-term care insurance and afraid to trust volunteers to come in who are not bonded. Since making the decision to quit working and be at home 24/7 to care for her, we are now disqualified from some of the programs that she could benefit from if I was still working which we did not know would happen ahead of time. She's not a real social person and with her dementia she could very easily be taken advantage of. Yes, we are considering that she may have to be placed in a home. Our hope and prayer is that the Lord would take her before that would have to be done. It's just that she would not last long at all in a home. She has pets that are her life to her and it would just kill her to leave them. We just wouldn't want to do that if we do not have to. Does this make sense? Anyway, thanks again.
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TEXASGRANDMA
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Have you checked into getting help? There are organzations that will send somene to come in so many hours a day to help out. Watching my mom take care of her loved ones for many years, I can tell you that it does take it's toll on your health. God bless you and your wife for your devotion to your loved one. There may come a time when you have to put your loved one in a nursing home. If you do so don't blame yourself.
My mom took care of two family members in her home for years, but her own health got to bad for her to take care of her sister at home and she put her in a nusing home. The biggest thing to remember is if you do have to do this is to visit reguarly but on a different day every time so you can make sure your loved one is getting proper care.
betty
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Luk 21:28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.
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RedeemTheTime
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Asking prayer for strength, wisdom, faith and trust, etc...for continuing to care for my 90 yr. old mother-in-law. She's been with us for over 7 years and is getting weaker...(she has a bad heart and moderate dementia.)It is a scary thing for me as we don't know exactly what lies ahead..never been down this path before in my life. Thanks so much.
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