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Pastor Dave
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Please take ‘Christ for the children’s’ advice and seek a qualified Christian counselor. I would also advise that you seek the advice of a CHRISTIAN attorney and separate yourself from your husband until a better solution to your current situation can be accomplished, (Some churches have Christian legal services available to their members). The answer will be found either through a conversion of your husband (and I am praying for this) or divorce. Your husband’s interest in gay pornography must be brought into the open and is an indication that he could be engaged in activities that are both an abomination to God and very dangerous to your health. Even though God hates divorce it can be a holy and acceptable solution to a marriage that involves fornication and danger to the wife or husband. Your financial condition will only worsen if you continue without some type of change. Your pastor or some other qualified Christian counselor (and the emphasis here is qualified) will be able to help you make changes that will better your financial condition. These things are easer said than done so I will be praying that God will give you the strength to accomplish them. Only through prayer and seeking God’s help will a solution be found so that fullness of the Joy of the Lord can be returned to you.
Father, help chestnutmare find a way to safely confront her husband with the terrible sadness he is bringing into her life. Convict him that he would know that following You is the only answer to his salvation. Send him an effective witness that he will hear the Gospel that he may be born again in Christ Jesus. Lord these are entirely in your hands and if chestnutmare’s husband chooses to accept Jesus as his personal Saviour then restore their marriage. Regardless of your decision Lord and husband’s decision please send angles to protect chestnutmare that no harm will come to her. Break the bonds of co-dependency and give chestnutmare the strength to take action that will lead to a solution to this troubled marriage. Holy Spirit let chestnutmare reach out and touch Jesus as she needs a special touch form God to know that You love her and that You are moving in her life. Father, send her a financial breakthrough that funds will be available to assist her in doing your will. We turn it all over to You Dear Lord in the Name of Jesus; Amen.
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Your servant in Jesus our Christ, Pastor Dave
John 3:3
"Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
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Christ for the children
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Hello again, I would highly suggest that both of you see a Christian counselor. Perhaps your pastor could counsel with you, or suggest one to you. I would suggest that maybe you see the counselor first, and, if possible before your husband returns. It is not a shame to see a Christian counselor either in my opinion, because it shows that you want to do what is right by God. Then if your husband will, both of you go. If you also let the counselor know about your financial situation he/she may not charge much, and perhaps not even charge! I know many people I know have been couseled by pastors and/or Christian counselors who have not been charged at all! In any event, I will certainly continue to remember you in prayer. God is the GREAT physician, He has worked many miracles! "Father, once again we come to you in prayer. We thank you and praise You for loving us so. We also understand that You know our needs before we even ask, but that you do want us to bring our rquests unto You. Father, You know everything about this dear sister, and the situation she is facing. Be with her, comfort her, and guide her to the decision that You would have her make. We pray for her husband, that You would send someone into his life, that he would realize how much he needs you. We ask that You would convict this mans heart, that he would come to ask You to come into his heart and save him. We will be careful to give You all the praise, for it is in the blessed name of Jesus we ask. Amen." God bless you sister. Thank you Jesus!
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chestnutmare
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Well six weeks are nearly up and my husband returns from his trip to Russia. I have spent the time well and the Lord has been good to me. I am thankful for the christian friends I have found through the internet who are commited to the Lord and who are faithful in prayer. I praise God for these people and thank Him for His providence in my life. As I said, my husband will return on the 31st and well, I must prepare for this event. While I am aware that the things he has done constitute adultery, I want to do what a godly wife would do. Not more, not less. I would ask of those who read this, if your spouse spent money on gay pornography, how would you respond? Let us say a substantial sum of money which you could not afford? I have been in a situation where I have been working for very little money even though I have a degree, experience, certification as a graphic designer. I am working and living hand to mouth. God is providing and I am not complaining. Only it hurts that your spouse has his wires crossed and well my doctors suggest that I consider not being with him for my health. When I consider the events in Joseph's or Naomi and Ruth's life to provide perspective on my own circumstances, I wee that God uses this pain, this injustice to show His providence and love.
I am not totally certain about how I should respond. While some might say that an active engagement in gay porno constitutes adultery and therefore nullifies the marriage. I say what would Jesus do? I would also say that you please pray that the Lord would guide me and help me to do His will and be the godly wife He would have me to be in spite of the odds.
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Christ'sChild
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Hi,
I have prayed for you and I will continue to think about and pray for you and your husband. I grew up in a family where my parents were in a similar situation. I know your stress (because it affects the children too) and I know the physical and mental sicknesses it can cause. Keep God in mind. Let Him work on and with you and your husband. He is so amazing that he will NEVER let you go. Love Him. He loves you - so do I. Keep your head up.
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chestnutmare
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Your support is overwhelming. Thank you all for your help and prayers.
You are right there are many other issues involved as there usually are with a life of atheism and sin. Nothing that the Lord isn't able to deal with though. I just keep praying for his salvation and my continued sanctification.
While the situation in Russia hasn't changed, I have been able to trust that the Lord is doing something. I know that God tells us if two agree upon anything on earth it will be done by my father in heaven. I am learning to wait on the Lord who will renew my strength.
I would like to find some good books on apologetics, in the style of Evidence Demands a Verdict but translated into Russian. I don't read Russian so I have to trust someone else for a recommendation. My husband and his family are Russian so this might help them understand the reliability of the scriptures and who the person and work of Jesus Christ is. I pray for the salvation of my whole extended family.
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Christ for the children
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chestnutmare, Please know that the Lord can calm you and give you inner peace. God does not want His people to be troubled, and will not let us go through anything alone. I know that during our most troublesomt times, He will carry us if we ask Him to and then allow Him to carry us. I too am very concerned that there may be other things that are troubling you, things you may not want to express right now. And that's just fine, as God already knows about the whole situation and He cares more that anyone else. Just trust Him and follow Him, don't be afraid to ask Him to give you a sign that He is ever near you. Please keep this chain informed as to how God is working in your life. "Father, please give your child a sign that You are working in her life. She has concerns about her husband as you know and needs to see Your hand at work. Bring someone into her husbands life that he will realize that he needs to accept You and lean on You. I'm afraid that You are the only One who can correct this entire situation, and I ask You to do this now. It is so tough to trust You at times, so please give Your child and extra portion of Your blessings. In the precious name of Christ I ask and thank you for your love for us, your children. Amen"
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Shala
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I am praying for you sweetie...but I am also praying that you stay safe. I am very worried by the tone of your post that there are other things going on. Maybe not physical but other things and that is not good. Especially when it is affecting your health and well being. Please please pray about this and do what is best for you in this situation. I will be praying for your husband as well (((HUGS)))
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~Shala~
Don't Make God #1 in your life...
Make God your life ![[Cross]](graemlins/cross.gif)
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Kindgo
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chestnutmare, I will be praying for you and all your needs and concerns.... ![[Prayer]](graemlins/prayer.gif)
I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this.. ![[crying]](graemlins/crying.gif)
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God bless,
Kindgo
Inside the will of God there is no failure. Outside the will of God there is no success.
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chestnutmare
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I am writing again to ask for your prayers and advise. As I wrote earlier, my husband isn't a christian and he may be suffering from personality disorders (undiagnosed) but he knows how to make me miserable. I spent the winter and part of the spring sick and took antibiotics thinking that it was a sinus infection. My neurologist informed me today that in fact it was not a sinus infection but that the turmoil in my life had manifested itself in such a way that I was physically ill. Basically too much stress in my life and that some people have heart attacks or cancer from similar situations. He recommended that I cut my losses and divorce. He isn't the only one who recommended this. Some prayer partners have also suggested that I get out of the marriage ASAP. I don't want a divorce but, I do need for my husband to be convicted of his sin, be saved, and become a new man in Christ. He needs to consider his commitment to our marriage.
This is my second marriage and I know that the Lord can change people. I know that my husband can come to salvation and become a new man in Christ. I know that salvation can cause him to repent of his sin and be healed of whatever it is that makes him so mean and controlling.
I too need help. While my husband is out of the country for six weeks. I have been sleeping more maybe to help my healing but I also need to let go of this pent up anger. He is actually controlling me from afar and I need to rest from this pain. I need to really forgive. I am usually a happy person who isn't easily angered but when I think of the horrible things he has done, I worry that his perversion could put us in financial ruin. I have only temporary part-time work and need to sell some of my things (I once owned a store and some of my things weren't liquidated, I have tried Ebay and it may be my only recourse but it isn't going well and I need the money.) and find suitable work to pay off our debts.
I know that I am asking a lot but I am in need of my bretheren's help and prayer. I cannot do this alone. I need the Lord to act on my behalf and be my help. I know that all things are possible for Him and that He cares for me however, life has its messes and this is one big fat mess. So please, I ask you to pray.
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