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Looking For Love
by Victoria Self
When I look around at the teenagers today and how we live our lives, I cannot help but wonder what has happened to get us to this point? I believe with all my heart that we teenagers act the way we do because we are hurting and we are trying to fill a void in our life.
Let us take dating for instance! The world has put in our mind that “love” is a supernatural feeling that we get when that special someone puts their arm around us or tells us they “love” us. We have been deceived into believing that not having a boyfriend or girlfriend makes us of little or no value. That is a lie from our enemy! The sad part is, we all have fallen for the lie in some form or fashion. We are all being brainwashed into thinking we need a boy or a girl to be worth something.
It hurts me when I think of teenagers who have lost their most precious possession, their purity, because they wanted to feel “accepted” and “loved”.
We have compromised our standards and what we believe to be truly right just so we can keep that “special” someone in our life.
The bad thing about this is that we as Christians have fallen into the same exact trap as our lost peers. If we are doing exactly what they are doing then how are we going to witness to them? If they see us touching, hugging, hanging all over our boyfriend or girlfriend and having sex with them then what makes us think they will want to listen to us. They would say,
“They claim they are a Christian and do exactly what I do, so that must make me a Christian!”
In my opinion, we have given Christ a bad name and for more than one reason! We have gotten into this mindset, “If I do not have someone special in my life telling me they “love” me and that I mean the world to them, there must be something wrong with me.”
I do not know how to stress this enough. It is not true! Our value does not come from man but from The Creator of the universe who made us in His image.
The concept of dating is not found anywhere in the Bible. Not once does it refer to someone's dating relationship. In the Bible, they did not look for someone to date, give a piece of their heart to them, and then break off the relationship. They searched for their soul mate, someone they could be with for the rest of their lives, the one God had chosen for them, not someone to just fulfill all their flesh desires and then throw them away as if they were insignificant.
In the Bible, when Jacob worked for Laban, he was seeking a wife, not a girlfriend. For seven years, he willingly worked to have her. He did not do that to use her and then give her back. It was because he saw himself living the rest of his life with her! Another example in the Bible is Isaac and his family who sought out together his future wife.
How many of us Christians can honestly say, “I am not looking for a temporary relationship. I am praying God brings my future spouse into my life.”
Can we honestly say that? Not a lot of people can; not a lot of us are willing to let God have complete control of our love life.
Actually, if you want to get technical, as a child of God, it is not our love life anyway! It is His. Believe me, it will not be easy to give it away but think about it! If the God of the universe cares enough about the birds of the air to make sure that He feeds them, do you not think He would care enough about us to take care of us in every area of our life, including our life mate? Yes! He does care and love us enough to provide for our every need including our dating life.
If you are like me, and are striving to let God have complete control of your dating and love life, then I encourage you to read When Dreams Come True and When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy. Those books have encouraged and strengthened me to be all that God wants me to be in a relationship and to stay pure, physically and emotionally.
How do we stay emotionally and physically pure? We say or do nothing that would dishonor or shame our future spouse. I do not want to be ashamed about what I have chosen to do with my life personally. I want even the choosing of my life mate to honor and glorify God! I want to hear him say to me, “Well done my good and faithful servant!”
My sincere prayer is that I will not be ashamed at how I choose to handle my dating life. I know this will not be easy but I do believe it is the right way to go. Not only will my spouse respect me for saving myself for him but also most of all God will be proud of me and He will reward me for it.
I am earnestly pleading to all my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ SAVE YOURSELF FOR YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE. Stop looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend and start praying for the person God wants you to spend the rest of your life with, to love and cherish.
I am waiting for THE AUTHOR of ROMANCE to write my love story and to bring that special someone in my life who I will spend the rest of my days fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives.
Furthermore, to those who are already in a relationship, and might have made wrong choices in the past, God can and will forgive you. He will give you a new start in the relationship if you just ask Him to.
I also encourage you to make God the center of that relationship. Believe me, you will not go wrong if you listen to God. He is the lamp unto your feet and the light unto your path! He will not let you down. You can count on that.
Victoria Self is 15 years old and hails from Tennessee. She loves writing and photography. She is involved in a puppet ministry as an Expressive Worship team and an evangelism team. She is the second to the oldest of seven children.
Quoted with permission...) http://www.battlecry.com/pages/victoriaself.php
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