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J4Jesus
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oh yea i understand, i took care of it.
it's for the best.
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lonlesol
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Trust me on this J4Jesus , if you do not love your girlfriend as much as she seems to love you, tell her now, do not wait any longer.
It may leave her a little scar but it won't be as painful as having a broken heart after years of living with the sentiment that she was loved and wasn't after all...nobody deserves that...
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ahar
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Originally posted by J4Jesus:
man ya'll, i'm in a really tough spot.
I keep feeling like God wants me to be Celibate.
but it's just my girlfriend who i don't have any feelings for anyway won't be so happy.
I have tried to break up with her twice before, but she would get so sad and i'd stay for her sake.
well it's just an awkward relationship, she say she loves me, this makes it even harder.
don't get me wrong, she's a good person, but i just don't love her. i can't, i've tried, now i know why.
i need major prayer over this, it's really important. God wants all of me for some reason and that's a good thing.
my gf won't understand, her friends won't understand, her family won't understand, and my family won't understand. So you see what a bunch of mess i'd have to deal with?
Hi mate
It sounds like a break up is inevitable between you, and the pain she will feel will only increase the longer that you stay with her. It may seem that you are helping her by staying together but you are not - you're making things worse by giving her false hope and stopping her from finding someone that can return her love.
I'm not trying to be harsh and I understand just how hard this may be, but I've seen this with friends before and honesty is always the best way. Also, itwill be much harder for you to work out your future direction while still in this situation.
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Andy
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J4Jesus
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man ya'll, i'm in a really tough spot.
I keep feeling like God wants me to be Celibate.
but it's just my girlfriend who i don't have any feelings for anyway won't be so happy.
I have tried to break up with her twice before, but she would get so sad and i'd stay for her sake.
well it's just an awkward relationship, she say she loves me, this makes it even harder.
don't get me wrong, she's a good person, but i just don't love her. i can't, i've tried, now i know why.
i need major prayer over this, it's really important. God wants all of me for some reason and that's a good thing.
my gf won't understand, her friends won't understand, her family won't understand, and my family won't understand. So you see what a bunch of mess i'd have to deal with?
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TEXASGRANDMA
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homeschool mom (linda) made it for me. She is so talented. I do believe it is Betty Boop. Even though my name is Betty, I never really got into Betty Boop until recently. Now I love the stuff.
betty
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Luk 21:28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.
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Eduardo Grequi
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To marry or not to marry!! Paul said it best, if you burn with lust one toward another than marry, however if you can remain as I, it is far more better to serve the Lord.
I do know being married has definite benefits mainly companionship. BUT IT TAKES A WHOLE LOT OF WORK, WORK, WORK just like, when walking with Jesus it takes alot of trust,WORK, WORK commitment . IN THE END, it is the servanthood with Jesus that abides forever.
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Cricket
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Hi TexasGrandma
I totally agree with you. By the way love your avitar. Is that Betty Boop in the red hat?
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What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?
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TEXASGRANDMA
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"First, I do not believe that God calls every Christian to be one or the other. Now I do believe He calls some to be one or the other, but I believe that more often than not it is our choice - God could use us either way”
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I disagree. If God has not called us to marry, He expects us to be celibate. God did not call anyone to commit fornication.
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Luk 21:28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.
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Bandit
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man.
How does one figure out which one they are to be? God calls every christian to one or the other.
But when are they supposed to know?
Hello J4Jesus,
First, I do not believe that God calls every Christian to be one or the other. Now I do believe He calls some to be one or the other, but I believe that more often than not it is our choice - God could use us either way.
Perhaps you will know what you are suppose to do when you make up your mind which you want to do. If God has a definite calling for you on this issue, I would bet you would have a pretty good idea already. If you are unsure, then perhaps He is leaving the call up to you.
Sincerely,
Bandit
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J4Jesus
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man.
How does one figure out which one they are to be? God calls every christian to one or the other.
But when are they supposed to know?
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