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Rebecca Myers
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What's that old saying...."two wrongs don't make a right?"
I know a couple that dealt with adultery and overcame it. Love conquers all!
Becca
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Itty-Bitty Girl
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Originally posted by helpforhomeschoolers:
The marriage covenant is a 3 way covenant not a 2 way covenant and even if the one spouse trangresses the covenant in committing adultery it does not mean that the covenant is broken for there are two that are still in covenant and in agreement.
It does not matter if the two are in agreement or not, if there is adultery, the covenant is broken. And the two are no longer bound.
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helpforhomeschoolers
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God allows for man to divorce because of fornication and not be guilty of being an adulterer or causing the woman to become an adulteres should she remarry, but this does in no way mean that divorce is the desire of God in such cases!
The marriage covenant is a 3 way covenant not a 2 way covenant and even if the one spouse trangresses the covenant in committing adultery it does not mean that the covenant is broken for there are two that are still in covenant and in agreement.
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
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Ec 4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
God's will is always that men repent of sin and receive forgiveness and be reconcilled. Thank God that GOD does not divorce us but seeks our repentence and reconcilliation when we are adulterous with HIM... earthly marriage is supposed to reperesent our relationship to God as we live in relationship with each other.
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Itty-Bitty Girl
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Should not we be faithful in our marriage, even if our spouse is not?
I believe that we should divorce unfaithful spouses... If the spouse cheats, the person is no longer bound to the cheater. Cheaters break the marriage covenant.
Marital unfaithfulness is grounds for divorce, Jesus told me that.
Matthew 5:31-32
"It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
Matthew 19:3-9
"The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
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ahar
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I don't think that the sin of one person would excuse the sin of another.
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KnowHim
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Yes, we should!
This is a very difficult situation. It involves all your emotions, and can stretch your faith in a big way. The best thing you can do is to "Turn all your worries over to Him. He cares about you" (1 Peter 5:7). Go to Him for daily comfort, wisdom, and direction on a daily basis. God can help you through the deepest of trials. Adultery is ALWAYS WRONG.
"God will judge the person who commits adultery" (Hebrews 13:4). I would encourage you (or this person) to rest in the truth that God is the avenger. The person who has been sinned against does not have to fret over getting even. God will do a much better job of that. With everything that is in you, commit this sin of adultery to the One who knows every detail, and will deal with it appropriately.
"FORGIVE people when they sin against you. If you do, your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive people their sins. your Father will not forgive your sins" (Matthew 6:14, 15). This may seem like an impossibility, but with God's grace, make it an act of your will in obedience to God's Word. To harbor bitterness will affect attitudes, emotions, your desire to obey God, and negatively affect everyday decisions. This does not mean that you are not going to suffer the effects of deep hurt... you will. But the grace of God will greatly minister to your needs. An unforgiving heart will soon be racked with vengeful thoughts, anger, wrath, etc.
BE FORGIVEN. "But God is faithful and fair. If we admit that we have sinned, He will forgive us our sins. He will forgive every wrong thing we have done. He will make us pure" (1 John 1:9). Ask God to help you see how you may have contributed to this whole situation, and be released from the weight of guilt before God. From that point on, you will be free to seek His counsel and guidance. His Holy Spirit will enable you to do what you could not do on your own. "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).
Then as God leads, ask your spouse to forgive you. This is very difficult, but it will certainly clear your conscience before him/her. Even if this takes time, decide you will do it. (See Matthew 5:23,24) To stay or to leave....."Anyone who divorces his wife and gets married to another woman commits adultery. A man may divorce his wife only if she has not been faithful to him" (Matthew 19:9)
The Lord says, "I hate divorce!" (Malachi 2:16) It is far better to try to resolve the issues causing the problems, especially if there are children involved. Godly counsel is helpful if you go to someone who uses God's Word as the basis for their advice. Pray for God to guide you in your thoughts, words, actions, and decisions.
http://www.gotquestions.org/affair-response.html
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helpforhomeschoolers
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Yes, we should! Because we are faithful to GOD, and there are 3 in the marriage covenant... not just two.
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arunangelo
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Should not we be faithful in our marriage, even if our spouse is not?
God always stays faithful to His covenant with us. When we were unfaithful to Him, He brought us healing by sacrificing His own life. The Lord told Hosea (Hosea 3:1), to return to his wife although she was an adulteress. God further told him to love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they were unfaithful to Him.
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