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Gramajo320
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Texas Grandma,
It's wonderful that the assistant pastor came by to see you! It sounds like a positive sign that you are on the right track to return to that baptist church. God bless you, your husband, and your family.
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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God does work in interesting ways. Today after discussing going back to Sylvan Way Baptist Church, the assistant Pastor dropped by. He had no idea we were thinking of going back. Kinda of made hubby and I think we are on the right track.
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TEXASGRANDMA
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Thanks for your understanding and prayers. Please pray for my daughter and son in law. She called last night extremely upset. Since Nov. this company has been hanging him by a string with a job promised for him. He got a call yesterday to go to work. Then when he got there that said they called by mistake. They may have to move in with his mom which is to far from their Church. The last time they were that far from Church they stopped going.
She works and pays her tithes but she can't keep a roof over their head on her salary.
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TEXASGRANDMA
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I tried talking to the preachers wife about how it came off as insensitive when they were making fun of the woman. She light in to me about how she has been hurt many many times and she doesn't put a wall around her. Which was a kick in my teeth because it had came up a couple of weeks before that that was a problem with me.
I like the Calvary Chapel Church online from Colorado but the Pastor here, it is hard to keep up with him, his mind wanders in so many direction by the end I had no clue what he was talking about. He spent most of the Bible study it seemed trying to talk people out of coming to the Church. Which really made me confused.
I am not looking for a perfect Church, but I would like a Church that when you notify your Bible study teacher that you are quite ill and you don't show up for a month, that this person would actually call you to see if you are still alive.
It is disouraging to think that if I were to die today, no one at any Church we have attended over the last 14 months would really care.
I guess I miss my Church in Houston, to much. The preacher's wife would call or email me if I missed and they both really cared about us. I know it is God's will for us to be here because us being here
has opened a door for my mom that would have never opened if were still there but, I am so depressed and unhappy about Church.
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I am sorry you guys are having such a hard time finding a church home. What happened to the Calvary Chapel you guys visited? I saw that you said you guys visited it once, but didn't notice if there was a reason why you decided it was not a place for you guys.
I think what I have found to be important in finding a church home is being heedful to where God is telling me to go. I am in a church I would never in my life have *chosen* to attend. It is small, when I am accustomed to bigger churches, and has what I see as some problems (what church doesn't have problems though?). However, the doctrine is sound and there are opportunities to grow in my walk and to learn how to be a proper disciple. Also, there is lots of opportunity for me to serve. Basically, I am learning that no matter where you go, there are humans, and humans are nasty, sinful critters. Pastors will say things they shouldn't, no matter who they are. People will be rude accidentally or even on purpose....etc. Paul documented all sorts of interpersonal problems in chruches in his epistles. He exhorted us to work together in love, and to deal with problems privately as they came up so as to not allow bitterness to fester.
My focus has to be on God or I will get discouraged and leave any church I go to, because people will fail me. The leading of the Lord, proper doctrine and sound Biblical teaching, followed by opportunities to better serve my God are criteria I now use to select a church home. I have had to approach this church not with the attitude of what they can do for me, but what I can do for God by attending there. So far, I have grown in ways I did not expect and have been blessed over and over spiritually for my willingnes to serve.
This has just been my experience with this recent move to a new town, but perhaps something in what I have gone through and learned will speak to you and help you guys find a place to settle down in fellowship.
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TexasGrandma, I pray that this is the church for you. You may have to give this church some time in order to feel comfortable in its unfamiliar and large setting.
A small Bible study group seems like a good way to get started. It would be easier to get to know other couples this way.
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Gramajo320
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TexasGrandma,
That's a great idea to join one of the small bible study groups at the baptist church. Yes I will definitely pray for God's will for you and your husband. God bless you both and your family!
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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I suggested to hubby that we go back to the Baptist Church but this time we join one of the small Bible studies. That was the only draw back to that Church was that it was so big and we did not know anybody after 6 months. So, please pray God's will.
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Gramajo320
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Texas Grandma,
I'm truly sorry that you're feeling so discouraged and I will join you in prayer that the Lord will lead you and your husband to a truly good church and that it will be one where you'll be happy to attend. The Lord will lead you in the right direction - sometimes it just takes time. God bless you and your family!
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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I am so very discouraged. I had prayed for 6 months before we moved that we would find a good Church home. We have been here 14 months and still do not have a Church where we feel welcome. I love going to Church and praising God but now I dread going to Church. I have prayed and prayed for guidance but I have receieved none. I just don't know that to do. Last night we went to a different Church I really hoped would be one for us. But the Pastor kept wondering off the subject so much by the time he got back to the Bible study I was so lost that I could not keep up.
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![[Kiss]](graemlins/Kiss.gif) Dear Grandma,
I am so sorry that they did that. I remember taking my mom to the church where I went before the military, that particular day the pastor asked someone to read from the bible for him. The person who did respond, was a visitor never been there before and he read from the NIV or ASV.Don't know which one it was. The pastor began arguing versions of the Bible, he stopped right in the middle of the homoly. I looked at my mom and I wanted to cry. You see that is the first christian church ever my mom went to. She is a sephardic jew.I had to explain to her the message in ladino. Afterwards I went to the pastor and told him-"How could you allow yourself to be used by the devil like that" What do you mean? You stopped right in the middle of the sermon to argue. To me arguing for the sake of arguing and grandstanding is of the devil. I entroduced my mother to him and he turned 7 shades of red.My mother then is very much Jewish and old fashion. The church that is not built on Jesus will falter. That church did falter and fell apart. ![[Eek!]](eek.gif) The church was built on a version of the bible and not the Lord himself, the name was King James Bible Church.My mother was born again thru Jerry Falwell Church on the TV because the neighbor translated it into french for her. Nevertheless, you found out before you got too attached.Remember Grandma- The church is much more than a building. After I retired from the military I wanted to look up friends of mine at this church.I went to the place where The church existed and it was boarded up. I pray often for these people and hope they are free from the obsession of the version of the bible. The King James Version is a very good version, however we must not allow the version become our god. The author of the bible is our God not the pages.
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TEXASGRANDMA
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I have pre ordered another book he wrote from the library. thanks
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You have learned a leson go in peace.
Never trust a man who puts his shirt on backwoods.
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Gramajo320
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Texas Grandma,
That is wonderful and I'm very happy for you! Thank you lots for letting us know! God bless you and your husband and your family!
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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We did make it to Calvary Chapedl Church tonight. Hubby liked the study. We will go back Sunday, if we are not snowed in.
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TEXASGRANDMA
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Son in law did get a call last week from them saying they are going to call him in for another meeting soon. I hope real soon or they will be evicted.
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Texas Grandma,
Yes we all will definitely keep you and your husband in our prayers. I feel quite confident that the Lord will guide you to a really great church and we'll pray that it will be soon. Another thought since you don't drive many churches have small buses or vans and they're always glad to pick up people for services. That might be something you'd like to check into. I really believe that you and your husband are going to find a great church to attend and that the pastor and his wife will be ones that you can trust. Anyway you two are in our prayers and please let us know how it goes! God bless you both!
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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thank you both for your prayers. Joanne, son's Church is two hours away. So to far to go reguarly. We are planning on visiting Calvery Chapel tonight, at least I think we are. The grumpy old man is not speaking to me at the moment. I don't drive so it is up to him. Please pray for us and I shall pray for you both.
Sadly I had started to feel comfortable around that preacher and his wife. I will think twice before trusting preachers and their wives again. I should have known better, being burned so many times before. Of course having had a minister in the family that abused his wife, doesn't help my feeling towards preachers. His wife is with God now and safe and I have not seen him since the funeral.
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Texas Grandma,
No you aren't over reacting at all. That pastor and his wife should never have made fun of that woman whatsoever. They should be sanctioned for behaving in such a manner as they did. The pastor's wife should have listened to you and not responded in the way that she did.
It's best for you to find another church that you and your husband will enjoy attending. I'm certain that the Lord will guide you to a very good one. You and your husband are in our prayers! God bless you both!
In Christ's love,
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TEXASGRANDMA
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thanks. It wasn't like that said it and left it that but they went on and on for over 5 minutes making of fun of this person.
Right now I am so discouraged. The devil is fighing
me in my marriage and now I have no Church home. I feel like a ship that has lost her way in a storm.
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![[Cross]](graemlins/cross.gif) No it is the responsibility of a minister of God to shepherd and tend for the flock provided them by God. A Minister of God should be above reproach in all manner of actions. To act in such a manner as to publicly or privately embarrass one of God’s children is (in my opinion) grounds for sanction. The body of the church to which you referred should take action to admonish the Pastor as to how and what is appropriate behavior. I strongly agree it sounds that a close church may not be the right church, at least not that one. Love to all and May God bless. ![[Prayer]](graemlins/prayer.gif)
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TEXASGRANDMA
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We just recently started going to a Church 2 blocks from the house. We have been going 3 months. We were both starting to feel at home there. Before Christmas we went and the class had started and the preacher started talking about a lady that had came in his office that day.
The woman had told the preacher that she was thinking of attending the Church but she wanted him to promise her that she would not be hurt. Because she had been hurt so badly that she can't take it anymore. The preacher and his wife began to openly make fun of this lady. After the class, I told the Preacher's wife that I felt that she should have more compassion for the woman. That as a person who has refused to get close to preachers for 15 yrs because of past hurts; I could sympathize with the lady. The preacher's wife in a condensending voice informed me that she had been hurt many times and she is so open to everyone. I was so shock that I could not talk.
First of all I believe the preacher's wife not only has walls up just like me, I believe hers are covered with bobwire. Secondly, I could never trust this couple with any of my problems for fear, I would be used as a joke at the next Bible study. Now we are looking for a new Church.
My question, am I over reacting?
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